Posts tagged: rant
A lot of the asks implied that I didn’t know anything about racism or that I had not experienced any form of discrimination because i’m half white, and in their opinion I can “pass”. I just wanted to set the record straight.
YES I’VE BEEN THE VICTIM OF DISCRIMINATION/RACISM IN THE PAST. My visuals are abiguous. Every person that looks at me sees something a little bit different. Some people think i’m full white. Others think i’m full asian. Some people think that i’m hispanic, and still others just look and me and try to guess. I’ve heard everything from Puerto Rican, to Inuit, to Russian. Becuase of this, i’ve been through a lot of shit.
When I around 6, I was beaten by a full grown man because I had “dirty blood”. I’ve been called a spic, and cracker, and a chink, sometimes in the same day. I’ve had people tell their kids not to play with me. I’ve had people straight up ignore my existence. I’ve been followed in stores. I once had a Korean substitute teacher call me things I don’t care to repeat. I’ve heard tons of slurs against both of my parents. I’ve been told that I “don’t belong” in certain places/groups. I’ve been spit on. I’ve had someone tell me to my face that I don’t count as a Korean person because i’m half white. I’ve had customers at my job ask for someone that can speak english, even after talking to me for a couple minutes. (By the by, I speak english fluently, and am pretty much accentless due to my Air Force brat upringing. Just a few slight traces of Australia and Philadelphia, but nothing to lead someone to think I don’t speak english.) I’ve had family members tell me i’m not American because i’m asian. I’ve been a spectacle, and something dirty that should be hidden. I’ve been told to stop “acting asian”, completely discounting the fact that I lived in Korea till I was in elementary school, and that my friends outside of school were almost exclusively asian, and that I was raised by an asian mother. I’ve had both sides of my ethnicity and experiences denied my entire life. And everything that i’ve written is just the tip of the iceberg. I could go on for hours.
If any of you had really read my last post, you would already know the following, but after reading the asks, i’m just going to write it here again. This is the internet. Reading a few pages of someones blog does not mean you know them. So unless you really know them, only say nice/constructive things. No need to say anything nasty, or that could be taken badly, unless you have definite proof they are being an asshole themselves. I’m not a nice person. I’m actually kind of a huge jerk, but even a douche like me know that kind of thing. So all you kind strangers should be much better.
I’ve pretty much gotten so sick of the racism on tumblr. Black people being racist to white people. Asians being racist towards Hispanic people, Whites being racist to… everyone? If there is a kind of racism, you will find it on tumblr. And i’m fucking tired of it. We are all internet nerds~~ Can’t we just get along and not hate eachother. I mean, I go through enough racism in my daily life (Being ching chonged at work, then being told by “friends” that since i’m half white my asian side doesn’t count) to want to go through this shit on the place I come to relax.
I have probably more stories then anyone I know about racism. I was discriminated against in Korea for being half white, I’ve been discriminated in the US for being asian. Hell i’ve even been discriminated against for being hispanic… and i’m not even hispanic. When I was a kid in Korea, I was actually physically beaten by some drunken middle aged man because I had “dirty blood”. When I was in middle school my “friends” made me sit on the floor next to the table because they didn’t want to eat at the same table with a chink. I’ve been told I had a strong Korean accent, or that people “can’t understand that ching chong shit” despite the fact that i’ve lived in the US for around 17 of my 23 years. So I know a little something about racism. And with my knowledge, I can see there is a shitton of it on tumblr. And a suprising amount of it comes from blogs that claim they want to overcome racism. Yup. Uh-huh. You want to overcome racism… by making fun of white people. Yup. I see the equality blossoming already.
If you want to educate white people of their privilege that’s fine. It’s actually good. If you want to get up on your box and shout to the world, or merely calmly research and disperse your gained knowledge thats fine as well. But if you try and do it by mocking others… you’re just another racist shitbag.
MAKE IT STOP.
yeah, let’s highlight all your genocidal and colonial projects.
But sometimes I do envy how blissfully unaware these idiots are.
11 months out of the year are white history month… Hell, depending on where you live even black history month is white history month. But honestly i’m tired of black history month. At least you guys are in the text books. No one even knows about asian heritage month. No one knows asian american history. No one knows about the Chinese sex slaves during the gold rush, or even the slave trade that goes on to this day. Or what about when they taxed asian people for being… asian. Or when they banned Chinese immigrants? Or the camps they threw Japanese Americans who had been living here for generations into during WW2? What about the Korean war? Learn about every other war, but never hear a peep about that. I could go on for ages…
There are no specials on TV about famous asian americans, or the impact asian americans have had on US culture. In all my years of formal government education I never even HEARD of asian heritage month. I didn’t learn about it until college, where I minored in asian studies. Black history month gets a crapload of attention. Hispanic heritage month gets a bit, white history… is most of what we learn. Asian history month… no one even knows it exists. Basically… i’m just ranting.
You only meet guys at clubs/bars/chat apps. Talk to/date several at once. Your social life (from what I can gather) consists of nothing but getting shitfaced everynight, and writing on your blog about how shitty and backwards Korean guys and Korea in general are. And you wonder why there are no good guys in your life? I can’t be certain, but from the way you present yourself online… it’s because you aren’t a “good girl” and I don’t mean that in a “girls should be modest and conform to the archetype of femininity way. I mean it in a “you seem like a shitty person” way. The fact that a good chunk of you are teaching children is kind of frightening. You can’t expect to meet a nice person, if you aren’t one.
Also, stop feeling so fricking victimized I’m a mixed race person who had a birth defect that wasn’t fixed till college, and has been under fairly constant racism and bullying since I was small, and I don’t feel half as victimized as you guys seem too. Yes you are a girl. You have to deal with sexism. But the majority of you are white. So chill the fuck out. Life balances out.
Finally, don’t complain about being treated like a foreigner.. in a foreign country. Chill out. I’ve lived most of my life in the USA, but people still tell me I speak english well, and ask me where i’m from. Screw the fact that I don’t have a foreign accent. I’m yellow so I must be foreign. If you live in a place where you don’t look the way everyone else does… expect to be treated differently. It sucks, but it’s the way the world likes. Also, you will never be a Korean person… so don’t talk badly about your fellow foreigners for no reason.
PS: Stop complaining about Korea so much. If you don’t like it GTFO~~
PS: PS: Korean guys are people too… not magic animals, and not all the same. So… stop writing about us like that.
All that said. There are plenty of good “korea blogs” and nice people that run them. Complaining about Korea is fine, as long as it’s not all you talk about. Meeting guys in bars/clubs/chat apps actually can work out. Sometimes people are racist, and it’s ok to try and fix that. All the things I complained about can actually be legit. But in the blogs i’m referring too… the writers are just shitty people.
개념녀 한글자막. (by blitzsound)
Stumbled across this video..my two worlds are colliding in unexpected ways, lol
UGGHHHHH out of all the Jenna Marbles videos they could have subbed - 99% of which are brilliant and amazing - why would they choose the ~ONE~ I disagree with? ㅠㅠ
Not that I think what she’s saying is completely wrong, but I think there are different ways to take care of someone other than just financially…yes, my ideal would be to have a husband with a well-paying job who supports the family so I don’t have to work, but that doesn’t mean I’m not taking care of him too. Taking care of housework, feeding them, keeping up to date with doctor’s appointments and bills and social life stuff, doing the shopping and running errands, providing emotional support…these are all essential needs in people’s lives. So a woman saying she wants a guy who will financially support her, and yet still has dreams of being a housewife, is not inherently a gold-digging hypocrite…
I didn’t finish this video because I felt uncomfortable watching it so I don’t know if she addressed this point, but I felt personally sad listening. Le sigh~ I just know how so many creepy guys are going to respond to this and it makes me pre-emptively annoyed.
Anyway are there any other sources with Korean subtitles? I love reading them regardless.
I don’t think she is talking about housewives with children. She specifically says that if you had a baby, and you’re taking care of the baby. Then it’s fine. I think she is referring more towards girls who just expect the guy to pay for everything all the time, and just take care of her for the simple fact that she is a girl.
In my opinion, being a housewife, or househusband is a perfectly respectable job. Taking care of kids isn’t an easy job. So I think it’s pretty legit. IF you have kids. If you don’t have kids… then that seems really lazy to me. I mean, for two people.. how much cleaning can there be? How long does it take to prepare a meal? And working doesn’t stop anyone from making social plans, or doctors appts, or providing emotional support. I think if nothing else, working at least part time is a must, unless the husband or wife that is the breadwinner is ridiculously ballin, and you can live comfortably on just one persons salary. And even then, extra money never hurts. (Again, the need to work part is consided null and void if there is a child involved. And no, man-children don’t count. Neither do women-children.) Also, the stay at home parent need not be the mother. If the father wants to stay at home and raise the child, every couple should talk that out themselves and reach their own agreement.
Don’t get me wrong. I like to buy the people I date nice things, and pay for their dinners. But it’s not because of their gender. It’s because I like to buy things for people I like. I buy my friends and coworkers stuff all the time. Because seeing them happy makes me happy. But I have broken up with girls in the past because they expected me to “take care of them”. Once I was at the mall with an ex of mine, and when we got to the register, she just stood there. And after a little bit she looked at me and went “aren’t you going to pay”? And this is after I had already plopped down a bit of change on a fairly nice dinner, and Starbucks afterwards. There are huge amounts of girls out there who expect guys to pay for everything all the time. Even if it’s not to the extreme of paying for their shopping. You can go on multiple dates with them, and never see them even attempt to pull out their wallet when the dinner check comes, or at a coffee place, or at a froyo place, or at a movie place. It’s sometimes to the extent where I wonder if these girls have a wallet.
Basically i’ll buy you stuff because I like to buy you stuff. It’s not a requirement for us to date. And if you think it is, we won’t be dating anymore.
The other day at work, I got “ching chonged”. I was explaining to a customer the reasons that she couldn’t have a discount, and that if she really wanted to push it, she could talk to a manager. In the process of doing so, I stuttered over my words a bit. Her immediate resonse was “I don’t understand none of the ching chong shit you asians be talking about” (A note, I speak english perfectly well, as I have lived in the US for almost my entire life, and the only accent that people have told me that they can hear is a slight Aussie one, and even that is something that only some people tell me they can hear.) I brushed the comment aside, and continued with the sale, as i’ve encountered loads of racism in my life, and I thought it was more funny then anything else.
Fast forward to a few days later to me recounting the previous events to my coworkers. Her response? “But you don’t even look asian. You look like a straight whiteboy.”
Which brings me to my point. Being half, quite often i’m forced to choose a side, or have one side denied, or have my encounters with racism ignored, or someone has yelled at me for not speaking some language which I would have no reason to speak because i’m not actually one of their people. Basically… my ethnicity and identity changes depending on who is looking at me. I’ve had people tell me they can’t tell i’m asian. I’ve had people tell me they can’t tell i’m white. I’ve been spoken to in broken spanglish by people who assume that I can’t speak English. And while I consider myself pretty well adjusted and confident in my own identity (at least in terms of my race) it’s more then slightly annoying to have people constantly deny or ignore my experiences.
In short, the worst part of being mixed is… I have no idea. It just sucks most of the time. I love my parents, and I wouldn’t trade them for the world… but I never get why so many people love being half, or why others would want to be half. Basically everything about it sucks. I could go on for hours about the reasons why, but I have to sleep soon.
The only good point I can see in it is that it gave me a very pessimistic view of people. Which might sound bad, but I just view it as being able to see people as they really are, which is good in my books.
But I still wouldn’t trade being mixed for the world. It gave me my own perspective on the world, and in a large part created who I am today. But that doesn’t make it suck any less.~~
it’s obvious to anyone that takes even the slightest glance. but the fact that people don’t see it, that that can’t see it. that is what is what makes humans such a scary animals. we only see what we want to see, and of course what we see is the truth. in professional horse racing, the horses wear something called blinders to prevent them from seeing the side, or rear view. they can only see what is directly ahead of them, so they can only go where the jockey leads them. I think we are like that too. we are the horses, and society is the jockey who leads us. we get pointed in a certain direction by society, and because we have the blinders on, we only see what is in front of us. and accept that as the entire world. but of course, people aren’t horses, hopefully we are more complex animals. so we have the ability to choose where we want to look for ourselves, if we simply take a second to stop. if people would simply turn their heads to the side, they can be exposed to a whole new world. a new truth. I don’t think people can ever fully take off the blinders, we’ve all spent too long with them on. but I think that simply turning your head, taking on a new view of the world… that is an amazing thing.
sing it sister
Amazing how often I’ve had many of the above convos. Blergh.
me, pretty much every day of my life since i was, oh…10. fucking tired of this conversation. and being painted as the “extreme” one for having it.
Fucking word. And I used to let it go. But honestly, I’m done caring what guys think, especially if they’re the ones spewing horrid shit every time they open their mouths.
I think I just had a talk about this with my sister. One of her friends made a comment against feminism and she got onto him. Basically by saying that any guy that’s not a feminist is saying that he finds it okay for women to be treated as lesser beings and bullied and kept down.
I wholeheartedly agree with her.
I just want to say. I’m a human services major. For those of you that don’t know what human services is… it’s kind of like social work+early childhood education+human resources+psych+a bunch of other things all rolled into one. So I actually know my shit.
That said, I can agree with large parts of this post. Women shouldn’t have to worry about being raped. It sucks. But the part of this post that annoyed me was the part where she pointed out that 1 in 4 women are raped, in response to the comment that men get sexually harassed. I’m not sure about that number, but I know that there are way more women that get sexually harrassed then men. That said, a man who is sexually harrassed, raped, or a victim of domestic violence is in a large chunk of cases that i’ve seen/learn aboart are much much worse off then a woman in the same situation.
That sounds crazy, but it’s true. There are huge amounts of support systems for female victims. But if you look for matching systems for males… the number is pretty small. Not only that, they are often turned down service by the support systems for females. And something like going to the police? I’ve read stories about guys who literally got laughed at by the cops. Or in the case of domestic violence, i’ve heard of guys who were actually arrested for finally defending themselves after long term abuse. A woman pretty much just has to say the word abuse, and the man is fucked. And even if he doesn’t get arrested, his work life, friends, family… it’s all fucked up. And custody of the kids… don’t even make me laugh.
Basically… Rape sucks. DV sucks. Sexual harrassment sucks. It doesn’t matter who you are. If you are a male, female, some mixture of both… it sucks. It’s terrible. But i’m sick of people writing off male victims, simply for the reason that a female is more likely to be a victim. Yes. You are more likely to be a victim. And there are more victims. But that doesn’t make it any less terrible when it happens to someone of a different gender.