Posts tagged: white privilege
A lot of the asks implied that I didn’t know anything about racism or that I had not experienced any form of discrimination because i’m half white, and in their opinion I can “pass”. I just wanted to set the record straight.
YES I’VE BEEN THE VICTIM OF DISCRIMINATION/RACISM IN THE PAST. My visuals are abiguous. Every person that looks at me sees something a little bit different. Some people think i’m full white. Others think i’m full asian. Some people think that i’m hispanic, and still others just look and me and try to guess. I’ve heard everything from Puerto Rican, to Inuit, to Russian. Becuase of this, i’ve been through a lot of shit.
When I around 6, I was beaten by a full grown man because I had “dirty blood”. I’ve been called a spic, and cracker, and a chink, sometimes in the same day. I’ve had people tell their kids not to play with me. I’ve had people straight up ignore my existence. I’ve been followed in stores. I once had a Korean substitute teacher call me things I don’t care to repeat. I’ve heard tons of slurs against both of my parents. I’ve been told that I “don’t belong” in certain places/groups. I’ve been spit on. I’ve had someone tell me to my face that I don’t count as a Korean person because i’m half white. I’ve had customers at my job ask for someone that can speak english, even after talking to me for a couple minutes. (By the by, I speak english fluently, and am pretty much accentless due to my Air Force brat upringing. Just a few slight traces of Australia and Philadelphia, but nothing to lead someone to think I don’t speak english.) I’ve had family members tell me i’m not American because i’m asian. I’ve been a spectacle, and something dirty that should be hidden. I’ve been told to stop “acting asian”, completely discounting the fact that I lived in Korea till I was in elementary school, and that my friends outside of school were almost exclusively asian, and that I was raised by an asian mother. I’ve had both sides of my ethnicity and experiences denied my entire life. And everything that i’ve written is just the tip of the iceberg. I could go on for hours.
If any of you had really read my last post, you would already know the following, but after reading the asks, i’m just going to write it here again. This is the internet. Reading a few pages of someones blog does not mean you know them. So unless you really know them, only say nice/constructive things. No need to say anything nasty, or that could be taken badly, unless you have definite proof they are being an asshole themselves. I’m not a nice person. I’m actually kind of a huge jerk, but even a douche like me know that kind of thing. So all you kind strangers should be much better.
I’ve pretty much gotten so sick of the racism on tumblr. Black people being racist to white people. Asians being racist towards Hispanic people, Whites being racist to… everyone? If there is a kind of racism, you will find it on tumblr. And i’m fucking tired of it. We are all internet nerds~~ Can’t we just get along and not hate eachother. I mean, I go through enough racism in my daily life (Being ching chonged at work, then being told by “friends” that since i’m half white my asian side doesn’t count) to want to go through this shit on the place I come to relax.
I have probably more stories then anyone I know about racism. I was discriminated against in Korea for being half white, I’ve been discriminated in the US for being asian. Hell i’ve even been discriminated against for being hispanic… and i’m not even hispanic. When I was a kid in Korea, I was actually physically beaten by some drunken middle aged man because I had “dirty blood”. When I was in middle school my “friends” made me sit on the floor next to the table because they didn’t want to eat at the same table with a chink. I’ve been told I had a strong Korean accent, or that people “can’t understand that ching chong shit” despite the fact that i’ve lived in the US for around 17 of my 23 years. So I know a little something about racism. And with my knowledge, I can see there is a shitton of it on tumblr. And a suprising amount of it comes from blogs that claim they want to overcome racism. Yup. Uh-huh. You want to overcome racism… by making fun of white people. Yup. I see the equality blossoming already.
If you want to educate white people of their privilege that’s fine. It’s actually good. If you want to get up on your box and shout to the world, or merely calmly research and disperse your gained knowledge thats fine as well. But if you try and do it by mocking others… you’re just another racist shitbag.
And by people, I mean a lot of the dumb fucks that run blogs like “thisisnotkorea” ”thisisnotjapan” etc. Honestly a lot of the blogs that claim to fight racism, are actually racist as fuck. I was reading thisisnotkorea, and I thought it was a joke blog, but as I kept reading… that fucker is serious. And when I started on thisisnotjapan… roflcopter. Being a POC does have disadvantages. There are times when white people need to be told to “check their privelge”. But that doesn’t mean that being mean to white people is ok. And if you do think it’s ok… that doesn’t make you a crusader for asian rights. It just makes you a douche.
This is kind of contradictory because I am using foul language, and the overall tone of this post is harsh, but haven’t these people ever heard that you draw more flies with honey then vinegar? If someone does something that you consider as a mistake, or racist, but does not seem to be purposefully antagonizing, then correct them kindly. If they are doing it to make you feel bad, then you can open the can of whoopass. But if not, then you are just being a jackass.
Also, white people jokes = not ok on a blog about getting rid of racism. If you are normal blog, go ahead. I makes jokes about whites, asians, hispanics, arabs, everyone but black people… i’m scared of them…. There is a time and a place for everything, and if you want people to take you seriously, then that kind of thing isn’t really fitting. It just makes the whole tone of the blog less serious. And not in a “this is a blog against racism, but its still fun and funny~” way, but in a “this blog is a joke” way.
This post isn’t solely pointed at the two blogs I named in the beginning, but rather at them, and the multitude of blogs like them. Sorry if I came off the the “blog police” telling people how to run their blogs as well, but I just really felt the need to say it.
Also, so people don’t think i’m a butthurt white boy, i’ll write a little bio: Half Korean half American (it’s all mixed up. Mostly white, but i’ve heard I do have a few black ancestors. My family has been here on my dads side since colonial times.” Most people think i’m some kind of hispanic. I was raised in the Korean community, and actually lived in Korea till I was 5 or so. I also minored in asian studies, and until recently majored in Human Services with the intent to work helping recent immigrants. So yea… no butthurt white boy here.
The other day at work, I got “ching chonged”. I was explaining to a customer the reasons that she couldn’t have a discount, and that if she really wanted to push it, she could talk to a manager. In the process of doing so, I stuttered over my words a bit. Her immediate resonse was “I don’t understand none of the ching chong shit you asians be talking about” (A note, I speak english perfectly well, as I have lived in the US for almost my entire life, and the only accent that people have told me that they can hear is a slight Aussie one, and even that is something that only some people tell me they can hear.) I brushed the comment aside, and continued with the sale, as i’ve encountered loads of racism in my life, and I thought it was more funny then anything else.
Fast forward to a few days later to me recounting the previous events to my coworkers. Her response? “But you don’t even look asian. You look like a straight whiteboy.”
Which brings me to my point. Being half, quite often i’m forced to choose a side, or have one side denied, or have my encounters with racism ignored, or someone has yelled at me for not speaking some language which I would have no reason to speak because i’m not actually one of their people. Basically… my ethnicity and identity changes depending on who is looking at me. I’ve had people tell me they can’t tell i’m asian. I’ve had people tell me they can’t tell i’m white. I’ve been spoken to in broken spanglish by people who assume that I can’t speak English. And while I consider myself pretty well adjusted and confident in my own identity (at least in terms of my race) it’s more then slightly annoying to have people constantly deny or ignore my experiences.
In short, the worst part of being mixed is… I have no idea. It just sucks most of the time. I love my parents, and I wouldn’t trade them for the world… but I never get why so many people love being half, or why others would want to be half. Basically everything about it sucks. I could go on for hours about the reasons why, but I have to sleep soon.
The only good point I can see in it is that it gave me a very pessimistic view of people. Which might sound bad, but I just view it as being able to see people as they really are, which is good in my books.
But I still wouldn’t trade being mixed for the world. It gave me my own perspective on the world, and in a large part created who I am today. But that doesn’t make it suck any less.~~
yes, being white comes with benefits. but being black does as well. at least most people assume that you are american. i wear “american” style clothes, and i speak english fluently with the most blatantly american accent (military brat, think of how newscasters speak without the over enunciation), but people still tell me how great my english is, and ask me when I came to the US, or ask me where i’m from. and when I reply Richmond, VA, they say “no, where are you really from? Like where are your parents from?” And don’t even get me started on asians in the Media. We’re scientists, or geeks, or ninjas, and if it’s a girl she’ most likely highly sexualized. The amount of asians playing non-stereotypically asian roles (roles that could have been played by a person of any color) is less then 5.
No matter what color you are, people are going to look down at you. I’ve seen so many posts on tumblr about how it’s ok to disregard white peoples feelings because they are “privileged” and just feeling “white guilt” I’m sorry, it might not be as systematic, and widespread as discrimination against POC, but you are being just a racist, and just as much of a douche. Every color has it’s pros and cons. White people can’t help that they get a leg up. Looking down at them isn’t helping anyone but your own ego.
ex. POC who always think that everyone thats white is discriminating against them.
I’ve experienced a lot of racism in my life, from pretty much every angle. I’m too white to be Korean, but too non-white to be white. And not just your basic non-white, i’ve been hated for being Chinese (which i’m not), Japanese (again not), Mexican (starting too see a pattern here?) I’ve been hated for things I am, things I appear to be. But I don’t let that control my life, and people who do are just sad little creatures.
Even if they do hate on you, and try to fuck you over… who cares. If not for your ethnicity/skin color, they would hate on you because of your religion, or the way you dress, or the way you talk.
But don’t think that everyone hates you, and they want to work against you because of some kind of “societal programming”. I’ve read so many post on tumblr about “white privilege” and all these other kinds of bullshit. It might not be on as wide a scale, or have as big of a historical backing, but the POC who write off white peoples experiences of racism, are just racists themselves. Same with feminists say they aim for equal rights, but overly take the side of women. You are just becoming the very thing you say you are fighting.
I don’t know where i’m going with this, and I could write for hours, but basically. People suck. They will continue to suck. BUT, don’t think that everyone is trying persecute you, or discriminate against you just because they are a member of the group that is doing the discriminating.